@themindfuldoctor_ š āļø Dear young queer person, I write to you today, to tell you that if your first taste of love came wrapped in shame, silence, or secrecyāit might soon become a pattern for you. Itās not because you are unworthy. Itās because the world failed to give you a blueprint. Many of us grew up in places where queerness wasnāt nurturedāit was whispered, punished, or erased. So we searched for love in the dark, and often found it in people who were hiding too and we called it āloveā because no one taught us what safe, mutual, open love looked like. This isnāt your fault. But please hear this: You were never meant to be someoneās escape plan. You were never meant to be loved in private but denied in public. You donāt have to shrink your dreams of love to fit inside someone elseās fear. You deserve firsts. First kisses that arenāt rushed. First dates where you get to laugh out loud. First loves that donāt come with an exit wound. The love you imagineāthe kind that holds you fully and freelyāis real, possible and all you deserve. But it starts with choosing yourself. Not someone elseās maybe. Youāre not too much. Youāre not asking for too much. Youāre just finally stepping into what you were always worthy of. I see you and I love you š„° Xoxo -The mindful doctor
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@themindfuldoctor_ š Living as a queer person in a homophobic country (like Nigeria š³š¬) is like growing up in a bubbleāone so thick and normalized, you donāt even know itās there. You accept the things around you as natural: the constant hum of homophobia, the religious leaders calling you a sinner, the police harassing you for being a bit effeminate, family members sending you subtle messages of their take on homosexuality, the complete lack of representation in media. You think itās just life. You adapt, you survive, you build a version of yourself that can withstand it all. And somehow, you convince yourself this is normal. But then you leave. You step out of that bubble, and for the first time, you breathe. You see people living openly and unapologetically. You watch governments create policies to protect and include you. Workplaces that go out of their way to make space for you. Friends who embrace you fully, who donāt flinch when you tell your truth. And it hits youāthis is what freedom looks like. This is what life could have been all along. Thatās when you start to see the damage. The trauma you thought was your personality. The self-suppression you thought was just humility. The walls you built around your heart to survive. You realize the life you lived wasnāt normalāit was bondage. And thatās when the healing begins. The real journey starts here: unlearning everything the bubble taught you. Reclaiming the parts of yourself you buried to stay safe. Rebuilding the person you were always meant to be, before the world told you who to become. To anyone who can relate, itās okay to feel overwhelmed. Itās okay to grieve what you lost and what could have been. But know thisāyou are not broken. You were just surviving in a place that didnāt let you thrive. And now, itās your time to heal, to grow, and to finally live. āØš #gay #queertiktok #nigerianqueerpov ā¬ original sound - Themindfuldoctor_
@themindfuldoctor_ š Living as a queer person in a homophobic country (like Nigeria š³š¬) is like growing up in a bubbleāone so thick and normalized, you donāt even know itās there. You accept the things around you as natural: the constant hum of homophobia, the religious leaders calling you a sinner, the police harassing you for being a bit effeminate, family members sending you subtle messages of their take on homosexuality, the complete lack of representation in media. You think itās just life. You adapt, you survive, you build a version of yourself that can withstand it all. And somehow, you convince yourself this is normal. But then you leave. You step out of that bubble, and for the first time, you breathe. You see people living openly and unapologetically. You watch governments create policies to protect and include you. Workplaces that go out of their way to make space for you. Friends who embrace you fully, who donāt flinch when you tell your truth. And it hits youāthis is what freedom looks like. This is what life could have been all along. Thatās when you start to see the damage. The trauma you thought was your personality. The self-suppression you thought was just humility. The walls you built around your heart to survive. You realize the life you lived wasnāt normalāit was bondage. And thatās when the healing begins. The real journey starts here: unlearning everything the bubble taught you. Reclaiming the parts of yourself you buried to stay safe. Rebuilding the person you were always meant to be, before the world told you who to become. To anyone who can relate, itās okay to feel overwhelmed. Itās okay to grieve what you lost and what could have been. But know thisāyou are not broken. You were just surviving in a place that didnāt let you thrive. And now, itās your time to heal, to grow, and to finally live. āØš #gay #queertiktok #nigerianqueerpov ā¬ original sound - Themindfuldoctor_